When you get super specific about what you want, life will bring it to you. When it arrives, you may decide it isn’t really what you want/need after all. That’s okay, be open to tweaking. Use this opportunity to learn about yourself and better identifying what you truly want at a base-needs level.
In my experience what we’re looking for is more the meeting of an emotional need. It’s an experience, rather than a checklist of items or characteristics. Identifying core needs and desired feelings makes it easier to recognize a good thing when it arrives. Many times where God is ultimately leading you looks nothing like your checklist. His answer may arrive in a way you never expected, and it might even be something you would have initially rejected had you only gone by your list and not taken time to discover your true desires and needs.
As my friend Steve Sutton (the trucker) says, “how do you know if you’re on the right road until you take the wrong road?” Sometimes the wrong road is the one that looks good on paper. The right road could be the one that doesn’t meet all the tiny details but meets your core emotional needs and makes you truly happy and fulfilled.About Marnie Pehrson
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Your weight affects every interaction you have with yourself and others. In your business it determines what photos you put on Facebook, whether you feel comfortable making videos or not, being on stage, leading a retreat, or even putting your pictures on your website. Personally it impacts your dreams, traveling, sex, relationships, and basically showing up for life!
The only way to eliminate the excess weight and maintain a healthy, vibrant body is to get down to the root of WHY you’re hanging onto the extra pounds. If I were to give the root issue a name, I’d say it boils down to one main thing for most people. Find out what that is in this FREE Audio, “Create Your Amazing Body – Look and Feel Fantastic.”About Marnie Pehrson
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So many of us never go for our dreams because we can’t see HOW we’re going to get past the obstacles that loom before us. Or we never set out because we don’t know every step it will take to arrive at our destination.
Don’t let the important desires for your heart be held hostage because you don’t know how they can happen! In this video I talk about how to create your own amazing life by letting go of how it will happen…
Join me for the next How to Create Your Own Amazing Life Workshop starting in January 2014!About Marnie Pehrson
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Lately I’ve been going through some major changes in my business and personal life. In the end, I’ve come away with a deeper, more poignant understanding that what really matters most is our relationship with the Lord — our ability to ask, receive answers and act upon inspiration as it comes.
When we have the ability to seek, hear and act upon the Spirit, we have everything we need. Markets may change, economies may falter, marriages may crumble, businesses may suffer setbacks, but if we have this lifeline to God and to His infinite wisdom, we have everything we need.
This is one reason why I’m wholeheartedly focusing all my “eggs into one basket” — helping faith-based entrepreneurs ignite their light, life, love and faith in a lifestyle business. Yesterday I re-launched my IgnitePoint.com site around this focus, and I’d like to invite you to take a look at it. If you like what you see, please subscribe to our daily updates there. I’ll be posting business and inspirational tips (called IgnitePoints) on the site 5 days a week and introducing you to some wonderful people who will inspire, teach, and help you succeed.
Each weekday the home page changes and reveals a new piece of inspiration or instruction. If you provide your name and email on the site, you’ll be able to receive these “IgnitePoints” in your email — http://www.IgnitePoint.com.About Marnie Pehrson
When I was little my dad would ask, “Would you rather be the prettiest girl in the class or the smartest?” I knew he thought I was smart, and I liked the attention I got for it. I always answered, “The smartest.” For most of my life I’ve never thought I was pretty or beautiful. I was born with crossed eyes which were repaired in an operation at 9 months, but had a lazy eye for years. I had horribly buck teeth. My mom got me braces. My brother made fun of my legs and compared them to a “metal bar” – as in formless and straight.
So when I met my future husband, and he thought I was so beautiful and liked my legs, I never quite believed him. I chalked it up to “love is blind.” He was seeing what he wanted to see.
It wasn’t until I was in my forties that I began to be interested in feeling beautiful. I got in shape, took Carol Tuttle’s Dressing Your Truth course, and people began to comment about my attractiveness. A back-of-mind vanity warning fired occasionally, but overall I’m enjoying myself. I feel great when I’m in shape, and I enjoy looking nice. I don’t do it for others. I dress, fix my hair and put on makeup most days because it makes me feel good. I do it for me.
As time progressed, I began noticing in my meditations with the Lord, He would tell me that I am beautiful. My husband will occasionally ask, “Why are you so beautiful?” Still, I wasn’t owning it. I figured, I’m a 46-year-old woman who’s in shape, maybe that makes me stand out or something. Besides, I know beauty fades with time. We all can’t stay young and beautiful. But I look at my mother who is 80, and to me she is the most beautiful woman in the world. She has always been beautiful, but she improves with age because the beauty comes from within her. It radiates from her soul, through her eyes, and a warm glow surrounds her.
She walks into a room and love enters with her. That’s the kind of beauty that endures.
Yesterday I was on my Create a WOW Book Mentoring call, and prepped to do some energy shifting around money mindset. I had my list of affirmations handy and was ready to shift that energy for the folks on the call – using the method in which I’ve been certified.
I’d written a blog that morning, “Yep, I’ve Been Terrified to Share My Message Too” and sent it to my mentoring group earlier in the day. I began the call by asking them if they’d read it and what, if anything, stood out to them.
This started a conversation about scarcity (which would lead very well into the money mindset material I intended to cover). But the conversation was so great, that for the full hour we discussed two main themes – scarcity and what to do with outer/inner criticism. I never covered the material I had on my lap. The participants shared their brilliant insights. Many of them are energy-shifters themselves and discussed their modalities, their ideas. People were opening up and sharing brilliant ideas and epiphanies. The hour passed seamlessly. Behind the scenes, I quietly cleared blocks I saw coming up for the group.
I directed the conversation a few times, chimed in with a few of my thoughts here and there. But for the most part, the call was a beautiful example of Quantum Collaboration and co-creation. Yet why was I so unsettled at the end of the call? I felt as if I’d done something “wrong.”
This morning I decided to meditate, ponder, and pray a bit about this. Why had the call made me feel uneasy? I think it boiled down to the fact that I felt like I didn’t “do” anything. It wasn’t me being the wise one imparting knowledge or the energy shifter making things happen. Would my mentoring group realize I hadn’t “done” anything and go away?
Yet, I had played an important role. If I hadn’t, none of it would have happened. I set the stage, offered insightful talking points, and chimed in when I felt like I should. This is what I do:
1) I attract good-hearted, amazingly brilliant people.
2) I bring them together in ways that they can interact with each other in a safe loving environment where they are valued.
3) I am able to reduce or eliminate judgment and criticism.
4) I share a bit of wisdom, set talking points, get out of the way and let the infinite flow through the group.
Result: Quantum collaboration happens and the sum is far greater than the parts.
There’s an analogy I love that portrays the power of unconscious collaboration:
“Honeybees are driven to pollinate, gather nectar, and condense the nectar into honey. It is their magnificent obsession imprinted into their genetic makeup by our Creator. It is estimated that to produce just one pound (0.45 kg) of honey, the average hive of 20,000 to 60,000 bees must collectively visit millions of flowers and travel the equivalent of two times around the world. Over its short lifetime of just a few weeks to four months, a single honeybee’s contribution of honey to its hive is a mere one-twelfth of one teaspoon.
Though seemingly insignificant when compared to the total, each bee’s one-twelfth of a teaspoon of honey is vital to the life of the hive. The bees depend on each other. Work that would be overwhelming for a few bees to do becomes lighter because all of the bees faithfully do their part.” (M. Russel Ballard, “Be Anxiously Engaged,” Ensign, November 2012)
Pondering upon the honeybee reveals that we are all going about our lives, engaged in our own “magnificent obsessions,” oblivious to the collective impact we’re making on the world. The honeybee certainly doesn’t know he’s creating honey that will be drizzled on your biscuit one morning. He is clueless to the rippling impact of his actions. And so are we!
Studying this analogy, I realized I’ve been measuring my value as if I’m a honeybee – busily working to gather pollen and make a tangible product – honey. But I am NOT the honeybee in this analogy. I am the flower. It’s my job to be beautiful, to attract beautiful people, and to set the stage. My pollen is talking points, bits of wisdom. As my friend Phil Davis says, it’s my “Marnie-ness.” My job is simply to be beautiful, to be me!
What an amazing paradigm shift for me! This word, “beauty” (that I never knew what to do with) is who I was born to be. Those compliments of “you’re beautiful” that I continuously deflected are truly what I am and why I am here. From now on I’m “owning it.” It’s not about vanity. It’s about being who God created me to be – a flower who attracts beautiful people and sets the stage for magnificent obsessions to play out in quantum collaboration. Rippling impacts for good result in the world when I show up and be me. WOW! I love it!
About Marnie Pehrson
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I’ve worked with people for years, encouraging them to share their messages. I’ve promoted so many wonderful people and seen the greatness in so many. Yet, I also noticed that a lot of people will do anything and everything but share their messages.
I had a fair idea of why they weren’t sharing — fear, self-doubt, and overwhelm. Yet, this paralyzation had me stumped. Of course, it was easy for me to be stumped because I didn’t have a burning message to share in those days. I thought my message was that YOU have a message. That’s a safe position to be — telling other people what to do when you haven’t really done it yourself.
Then everything changed when I realized I had my own message. Eight months after discovering it, life kicked me out of the nest and gave me the impetus to fully commit to this new path. As I’ve taken this flying leap, I now know WHY people are paralyzed! It’s downright terrifying!
Ironic, it’s a main phase of the Light Bearer process that I’ve been teaching for the last 3 years — you will come to the point where you’re tested on the very thing you’re teaching.
I’m realizing that the paralyzation comes from mad, scrambling, short-circuiting thought patterns. Some days I’m getting a handle on my message and how to share it, and the next it’s slipped like sand through my fingers. Doubts and fears have taken its place. One step forward, two steps back. It’s crazy the things that go through your head when you set out to share the message you’re here to share. Here’s some of the nonsense that’s been running through my mind…
- If I start sharing, then I’m giving my good stuff away and then what will I have to share? What if I don’t have more to share later? What if this is all there is? What if I share it, that’s all I have to say and I’m done and I gave it all away? Now what?
- What if that’s all there is to me? I put it out, I’ve said it, and I’m done, and I have no other purpose in life. I’m just done.
- What if I share it and people don’t respond to it. I’m here to share a message that no one cares about. Of course, then, that means they don’t care about me. It becomes personal – because my message doesn’t matter, I don’t matter.
- If I pour my heart and soul into this – give it my all and really do it and it falls flat, then what is there left to me? A J.O.B. doing something that bores me for the rest of my life. As long as I’m “working toward” sharing my message, then I have hope and something to look forward to. But if I actually do it, share it, give it my all, and it falls flat, then I am the ultimate failure.
- It’s safer to hold back some because then you have an excuse for why you didn’t succeed – it’s not about you and your message anymore then.
- What if my message is so complicated no one gets it? What if it’s too hard to explain, to quantify; and the learning curve takes so long that I go down in financial ruins waiting for people to “get it.”
- What if I throw myself 100% into this and it’s all a mistake. I’ve burned my bridges, now what?
- What if this is all pride and I’m being arrogant to think I have a message that is this important, but really it’s all just a lie.
- Pride goes before a fall. To think I have this big message is just me being full of myself. Risking everything for it is just pride, and I’m going to splat onto the concrete.
- What if I succeed? There’s a lot of responsibility with that, and I’m not ready to take on that responsibility.
- If I succeed, I give up the freedom to hide and play small. And it’s feels safe to play small.
After getting all those crazy thoughts out of my head and down in written form, I decided to work through each one and craft truth statements to counteract them. I’ve installed these in myself. If they apply to you, let’s install them for you too!
- I let go of scarcity thinking around my message. I have a lifetime of wisdom to share about it.
- The more I share about my message, the more comes and the richer and deeper it becomes.
- I’m here to share a message that people will respond to, be transformed by. I let go of the false belief that God would send me to this planet to share a message that is irrelevant.
- I let go of connecting my value to my message. I let go of connecting my value to other people’s opinions.
- The fact that I exist makes me priceless and of infinite value.
- I make money from my message. All of creation supports me as I live on purpose. I tap into the greatest levels of abundance as I live true to myself and what I’m here to do on the earth.
- I let go of fear of failure. I let go of the need to hold a part of myself back.
- All of creation is conspiring to help me share my message in a way that resonates with people and they are drawn to it.
- All of creation is orchestrating my success.
- My message can be conveyed with clarity and simplicity, yet with a depth and richness that I can study and expound upon for a lifetime.
- It’s in my highest good to fully commit to my message.
- It’s safe to give it my all.
- I let go of the need to play small. It is safer for me to play full out and live large.
- I let go of the fear of pride. I release the notion that I would have a great desire to share a message that would cause my demise.
- I trust that I will be comfortable with any responsibilities associated with success.
- I trust that I will be prepared and strengthened for everything I’m called upon to do as I live my purpose.
- I trust that this is a joyous journey and that I enjoy the responsibilities and activities associated with success in living my purpose and sharing my message.
I hope these affirmations are helpful for you and that you can internalize them for yourself. They’re true for you too! Accept them, you have something to do that only you can. We need you. The world needs you. Rise to your calling and let your light shine!About Marnie Pehrson
Can you hear me celebrating? Today is a fantastic day, and I can’t wait to share it with you!
Why am I so excited? Let me explain…
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In fact, Lisa Rae shows you how to crawl inside someone’s head and see exactly what’s going on in his/her thought processes.
As a member of the research team behind STEP, I was privy to discoveries as they happened. And I’m thrilled to tell you that Lisa Rae has just launched her new STEP program which details exactly how to read others like a book.
It’s been life-changing for me. I use STEP every day to connect deeply with my family, colleagues, and clients.
That’s why I’m so over-the-top excited to be the first to share this cutting-edge information with you!
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Or read it below:
Do you consider yourself a thought leader or light bearer? If so, would you like to know the secret to creating a movement around your cause or message?
• Imagine 15-20% of the U.S. population loving your ideas. • People love them so much, they turn up by the thousands wherever you go, just to hear you share your message one more time. • When you need money to better educate the world, all you have to do is say the word and within a week or less, people have sent you millions of dollars to get it done. • You know you can’t spread your message alone, but no worries, your followers are advocates. They willingly volunteer their time, money and energy to spread your message to their friends. They even get online and make videos and create blogs to talk about you and your message. • They show up when you need them to. They volunteer because your message is so important to them, they can’t sit still. • When the world calls you crazy, your supporters go to bat for you, taking action in proactive ways. • You and your message aren’t a passing fad. People follow you year after year in ever-growing numbers.
How is this possible, you ask? It must be a stroke of luck. In my opinion there is no such thing as luck. Luck is when preparation meets opportunity. Much of it is about being at the right time at the right place with the right message. But there’s more to it than that, and there’s much we can learn about creating a movement by dissecting one in progress.
That’s what I intend to do here. You don’t have to agree with the person I use as the example. You don’t have to support him, his movement, or believe in his cause in order to dissect what is working.
The person I speak of has very little charisma or ability to speak eloquently, yet he has made quite a stir with an avid following. It’s true. You don’t have to be a savvy speaker oozing charisma to create a movement! Isn’t that a relief?
Movements are compelling and newsworthy and any compelling story addresses 6 main elements — who, what, why, when, where, and how. I’ll add one more as a bonus. So let’s look at these 7 characteristics of a movement. As we do, think about your own message and your own character traits. How many of these do you possess? In which areas do you need a little work?
The Who is Dr. Ron Paul, OBGYN, Congressman from Texas, and presidential candidate. This is a man who has preached the same message for over thirty years. He’s in his 70′s. He stammers around delivering his message. He stumbles over his words. He preaches his message in a way many might say sounds like a broken record. He’s accused of being dangerous, an idealist and a dreamer.
But there is an important take-away here. Ron Paul lives in complete alignment, in utter congruity with his message. You know what you’re getting. He practices what he preaches even when it’s not popular. He says the same thing to every crowd — even when they boo him. His message never wavers and his voting record never varies.
There is a sense there will be no surprises with this man. You know what you’re getting and you can take his integrity to the bank.
Ask yourself, “How congruent am I with my message?” Are you consistently dependable in word and action? Is your name and reputation synonymous with your message? Do you live it vertically, horizontally and diagonally?
What: Is Your Name Synonymous with One Compelling Message?
What is Dr. Paul’s message? In one word “Liberty.” Specifically, liberty in strictly following the U.S. Constitution. His is a clarion call to return to a 224-year-old document. This is a document with a track-record for creating the greatest free nation in history. When it was followed strictly, it fostered freedom. When the nation veered from it, freedom diminished.
That is Ron Paul’s message. It doesn’t matter if he personally believes in a social agenda, if the U.S. Constitution does not give the Federal government the right to rule upon or make laws about it, then Ron Paul votes against it. He’ll tell you it needs to be handled at an individual, state or local level. It’s not a federal matter.
What is your message? Can you relay it as succinctly as “Liberty” or “Go back to the U.S. Constitution?” Or does it take 5-10 minutes to explain? Do you stand by your message no matter what the personal cost?
On more than one occasion Ron Paul’s declared, “I don’t want to run your life. I don’t know how to run your life. I don’t have the authority to run your life. And the Constitution doesn’t permit me to run your life.” Another time I’ve heard him say concerning the oval office, “I just don’t sit around daydreaming about it, but I’m in the race and I’m in a good race.”
You get the feeling this man cares nothing for power or gain. He lives in a modest rancher-style home that looks like the one my parents purchased in the late 60′s.
So why does Ron Paul do what he does? He could be retired, puttering around in his garden or playing with his grandchildren. Why does he extend himself in what many feel is a hopeless cause? Because he cares about his country and the people in it. He loves liberty, and he wants every American to bask in it. He feels compelled to educate.
How self-serving is your message? Is it all about you and you making money? Or is it about making the world a better place and leaving a legacy? Dig down deep. What are your motives? Are they power and gain? If they are, you might be able to fool yourself, but you won’t fool others for long.
When Should People Act On Your Message?
Timing is everything. And in this instance, the time is now. There is a sense of urgency to Ron Paul’s message. The country is on the brink of another war, impending monetary collapse. Unemployment is rising and people are looking outside the box for a solution that hasn’t been provided by politicians in recent history.
There’s also a sense that this isn’t about a single election. This is a man who sees himself as a teacher, developing a movement. The youth find him enthralling. College campuses overflow when he arrives. Military personnel donate more to his campaign than they do to all the other candidates combined.
Ron Paul is encouraged by this youthful exuberance because it means that even if the adults who embrace the status quo will not accept the message, the rising generation is embracing it and are avid supporters. If the adults let America collapse, the rising generation will know what document to return to when it’s time to rebuild.
Are you creating a sense of urgency around your message? Are you helping people see what will happen if they don’t take action? Are you in this for the long-haul, and do you have a long-term vision?
Where Is Your Message Applied?
The where is America. Ron Paul’s clarion call is to concentrate on our own problems and stop fighting other people’s wars or meddling in other country’s affairs. His message is to focus on protecting our own borders, build our own nation, fix our own economic problems, support our own liberty and let other countries do the same for theirs. As Washington and Jefferson suggested, “peace, commerce, and honest friendship with all nations, entangling alliances with none.”
What’s your “where?” Is your message applicable on a regional, national or global level?
How Will You Execute Your Plan?
The “how” is the U.S. Constitution. Return to it, strictly follow it. Dr. Paul also has a plan to cut 1 trillion dollars from the budget in the first year in office. This plan as well as the short U.S. Constitution are downloadable on-line for anyone’s review.
Do you have a plan? Is it documented? How easy is it for people to find it, study and learn about it?
Notice how simple the message is — “liberty.” Notice how simple the method is – “strictly follow the U.S. Constitution and the Founder’s interpretation of it.” The message is simple. Applying it seems complex, primarily because there is so much re-education required. That complexity is what makes many say he’s crazy, a dreamer or downright dangerous.
All of this plays into the success of his movement. When a large segment of the population (or the media) calls you crazy, dangerous or a dreamer, there is another segment of the population who will rally to your cause — especially if you’re conveying a message that strikes at the heart of the deepest craving of their hearts.
Who doesn’t want to be free? Who wants to have someone telling them every move to make? The quest for freedom is older than time itself.
How compelling and relevant is your message? Does it address a primary need of every human heart?
The freedom message strikes at the heart of every enlightened being. When that message is delivered in congruity and opposed by forces that seem bigger and stronger, there are always those who rally around to defend and support.
That brings us to bonus characteristic number 7.
Bonus: Is There Opposition?
The opposition is as important as the hero. Who would Harry Potter be without Voldemort? Who would Dorothy be without the wicked witch? Who would Superman be without Lex Luthor? Who would Colonel Doolittle and his fly-boys be without Japan? A hero is only as strong as his adversary. In our example, you have Ron Paul on one side and the establishment, the media and the status quo on the other. That’s some heavy hitting opposition which lends itself to the creation of a heavy-hitter hero.
Is there opposition to your message? Are there those who would say you’re crazy or that your plan is impossible? Sometimes the opposition is within ourselves or our own families. It can even be nature itself. If you’re not bumping up against some form of opposition, you’re not being bold enough. How can you make your message clearer, bolder, stronger and more consistent? You don’t need to intentionally seek to offend, but if there is no opposition, most likely there’s nothing rallying about your message.
In summary, ask yourself how you can live in 100% congruity with your message. Until you do and have a good start on these other characteristics, your quest to change the world and create a movement will most likely remain elusive.About Marnie Pehrson
Over the weekend, I created a list of the people who have made an impact on my life. These are people that I resonate with, who have taught me valuable truths, who have inspired me, and taught me to love. I came up with a list of 20 individuals, six of whom are my own children.
Then, I wrote down next to each person what I love about them, what inspires me about them. As I did this, I began to see a pattern. Right off the bat, I saw a common theme of liberty. Each has taught me about some aspect of freedom:
- Freedom to Create - Freedom to Change/break free of bondage - Owning Your Own Power and Respecting Other People’s Right to Own Theirs - Freedom of Expression - Freedom to Love without Limits
Over the course of four days I studied the common characteristics and threads in these people even more and discovered what they symbolize to me.
As I did this, I received
- A deeper understanding of who I am and what my own message is. What we see and admire in others, is what exists in ourselves.
- A clearer description of the typical person I’m passionate about serving.
Who We Are
• Courageous creatives who choose to be conduits of charity (aka pure love). • Leaders who stand for life, liberty, learning, love and beauty.
Definition of Light Bearers
Wise, intuitive, synergistic Inspired Creatives who are grounded in truth. They courageously lead the rising generation and lifelong learners. With love, beauty and respect for others, they light the way for people who are ready to break free of bondage into ultimate freedom (whether the bondage is of their own making, generational, or imposed upon them by others).
Going forward I will be focusing more on being a courageous light bearer and working synergistically with my fellow light bearers.
My Challenge to You
Try this exercise for yourself. Write down the names of the people you admire most, who have impacted your life. You don’t even have to know them personally. Then write next to their names what you love most about them, what you admire.
Then look for the common threads and themes. I put my people’s photos in columns and rows and rearranged them until I started to see commonalities. For example, my matrix has five rows.
- Row 1: Courageous advocates of truth. - Row 2: Inspired creatives who think outside the box. - Row 3: These people have taught me about respecting other people’s freedom to choose and how to help people without encroaching upon their agency. - Row 4: Lifelong learners who express themselves in beautiful, creative ways, particularly through music. - Row 5: I fondly call these folks, “glowing balls of love.” Their love seems to have no limits and others are drawn to them because of it.
There are other common threads going down the columns or even across the rows. The more I look at my matrix, the more insights I gain about the people I love to serve and who I long to be. Using the words and attributes I discovered from the matrix, I composed my definition of Light Bearers.
Give it a try! It’s a fun, enlightening experience. Please share with me what you discover about yourself!About Marnie Pehrson
A friend mentioned to me that she has a hard time deciding what ideas to pursue. Sometimes she gets so excited about them that she’s afraid she could be “running ahead of God.” What if God doesn’t want her to pursue this idea, and she’s stepping outside His will? So she backs up and feels the need to make absolutely 100% sure it’s what God wants her to do. Many ideas are abandoned or back-burnered because she feels like she doesn’t know 100% that it’s what God wants her to do.
While I feel it is important to live your life according to God’s will, I have a different viewpoint than my friend. I don’t spend a lot of time requiring an answer from God before I pursue every idea. I say a quick prayer. If I feel good about it and it fits within my focus and overall plan, I run with it.
When I told my friend this, she said, “Don’t you worry you could be running ahead of God? What if you mess up His plans for you?”
This gave me a chance to analyze how I process things, and I began explaining some foundational beliefs I hold. I feel these beliefs are what enable me to accomplish so much.
1) Humans can’t frustrate God’s plans. As long as I’m pointed in God’s direction, loving Him and wanting to align my will with His, no mistake I make is so big that it could frustrate His plans for me. He can take the biggest lemon and transform it into lemonade. God can even take people who are completely out of His will and make things work together for their good if they’ll turn to Him.
2) You cannot “run ahead of God.” I believe we might have a tendency to run faster than we have human strength to handle. But running ahead of God? Not possible.
3) God’s timing makes itself known. Sometimes I’ll get the feeling that my idea is a good one, but the timing isn’t right. For me, that’s just a “knowing.” But if I don’t pick up on that, God lets His timing be known when all the pieces aren’t in place for me to move past a point. Many times He’s letting me know it’s time to move an obstacle out of the way, and I work on that. Other times, it’s just a matter of other people getting ready and entering my life. In these cases, I’ve learned not to try to force things. Trust His timing!
I sort of look at it this way. God has given me a big sandbox to play in. This sandbox includes all my talents, abilities, resources, friendships, and possibilities. He’s given me all the buckets, shovels, and castle-building gear I need. The boundaries of this sandbox are my life purpose. He hands me all this and says, “Have at it Marnie. Cut your creativity loose and see what you can build.”
Along the way, He might give pointers or suggestions, but He’s not micromanaging me. In fact, some things don’t matter to Him, and if I insisted on a 100% green-light before I proceeded, that might never come. A lot of the things I’ve created in my life wouldn’t exist.
If I get excited and create a castle in the upper right corner of my sandbox instead of the lower left, He’s not stressed. He’s given me my focus and the tools; and He wants me to be anxiously engaged in good causes and do many things of my own free will.
When I pray, “What about this idea for a product?” and still feel good and excited about it, I take that as a yes or an “okay by Me.” Full speed ahead. Waiting inordinate amounts of time to get a booming YES from heaven or constantly second-guessing whether you’re in God’s will is disabling. It keeps you from moving forward and producing good things.
More good ideas die in indecision than anywhere else.
I recommend laying the foundation first. Prayerfully discover what you’re here to do. (Discover the boundaries and focus of your sandbox.) Once you have that God-directive, start creating! As long as you’re in your sandbox, building things that are in alignment with your purpose, are doing things that make the world a better place, and serving others; you don’t need to constantly second guess yourself. Have fun and see what you can create!
All things work together for good for those who love God and are called according to His purpose.” (Romans 8:28)
About Marnie Pehrson
Decisiveness is a characteristic of high-performing men and women. Almost any decision is better than no decision at all” – Brian Tracy