Yep, I’ve Been Terrified to Share My Message Too!
I’ve worked with people for years, encouraging them to share their messages. I’ve promoted so many wonderful people and seen the greatness in so many. Yet, I also noticed that a lot of people will do anything and everything but share their messages.
I had a fair idea of why they weren’t sharing — fear, self-doubt, and overwhelm. Yet, this paralyzation had me stumped. Of course, it was easy for me to be stumped because I didn’t have a burning message to share in those days. I thought my message was that YOU have a message. That’s a safe position to be — telling other people what to do when you haven’t really done it yourself.
Then everything changed when I realized I had my own message. Eight months after discovering it, life kicked me out of the nest and gave me the impetus to fully commit to this new path. As I’ve taken this flying leap, I now know WHY people are paralyzed! It’s downright terrifying!
Ironic, it’s a main phase of the Light Bearer process that I’ve been teaching for the last 3 years — you will come to the point where you’re tested on the very thing you’re teaching.
I’m realizing that the paralyzation comes from mad, scrambling, short-circuiting thought patterns. Some days I’m getting a handle on my message and how to share it, and the next it’s slipped like sand through my fingers. Doubts and fears have taken its place. One step forward, two steps back. It’s crazy the things that go through your head when you set out to share the message you’re here to share. Here’s some of the nonsense that’s been running through my mind…
– If I start sharing, then I’m giving my good stuff away and then what will I have to share? What if I don’t have more to share later? What if this is all there is? What if I share it, that’s all I have to say and I’m done and I gave it all away? Now what?
– What if that’s all there is to me? I put it out, I’ve said it, and I’m done, and I have no other purpose in life. I’m just done.
– What if I share it and people don’t respond to it. I’m here to share a message that no one cares about. Of course, then, that means they don’t care about me. It becomes personal — because my message doesn’t matter, I don’t matter.
– If I pour my heart and soul into this – give it my all and really do it and it falls flat, then what is there left to me? A J.O.B. doing something that bores me for the rest of my life. As long as I’m “working toward” sharing my message, then I have hope and something to look forward to. But if I actually do it, share it, give it my all, and it falls flat, then I am the ultimate failure.
– It’s safer to hold back some because then you have an excuse for why you didn’t succeed – it’s not about you and your message anymore then.
– What if my message is so complicated no one gets it? What if it’s too hard to explain, to quantify; and the learning curve takes so long that I go down in financial ruins waiting for people to “get it.”
– What if I throw myself 100% into this and it’s all a mistake. I’ve burned my bridges, now what?
– What if this is all pride and I’m being arrogant to think I have a message that is this important, but really it’s all just a lie.
– Pride goes before a fall. To think I have this big message is just me being full of myself. Risking everything for it is just pride, and I’m going to splat onto the concrete.
– What if I succeed? There’s a lot of responsibility with that, and I’m not ready to take on that responsibility.
– If I succeed, I give up the freedom to hide and play small. And it’s feels safe to play small.
After getting all those crazy thoughts out of my head and down in written form, I decided to work through each one and craft truth statements to counteract them. I’ve installed these in myself. If they apply to you, let’s install them for you too!
– I let go of scarcity thinking around my message. I have a lifetime of wisdom to share about it.
– The more I share about my message, the more comes and the richer and deeper it becomes.
– I’m here to share a message that people will respond to, be transformed by. I let go of the false belief that God would send me to this planet to share a message that is irrelevant.
– I let go of connecting my value to my message. I let go of connecting my value to other people’s opinions.
– The fact that I exist makes me priceless and of infinite value.
– I make money from my message. All of creation supports me as I live on purpose. I tap into the greatest levels of abundance as I live true to myself and what I’m here to do on the earth.
– I let go of fear of failure. I let go of the need to hold a part of myself back.
– All of creation is conspiring to help me share my message in a way that resonates with people and they are drawn to it.
– All of creation is orchestrating my success.
– My message can be conveyed with clarity and simplicity, yet with a depth and richness that I can study and expound upon for a lifetime.
– It’s in my highest good to fully commit to my message.
– It’s safe to give it my all.
– I let go of the need to play small. It is safer for me to play full out and live large.
– I let go of the fear of pride. I release the notion that I would have a great desire to share a message that would cause my demise.
– I trust that I will be comfortable with any responsibilities associated with success.
– I trust that I will be prepared and strengthened for everything I’m called upon to do as I live my purpose.
– I trust that this is a joyous journey and that I enjoy the responsibilities and activities associated with success in living my purpose and sharing my message.
I hope these affirmations are helpful for you and that you can internalize them for yourself. They’re true for you too! Accept them, you have something to do that only you can. We need you. The world needs you. Rise to your calling and let your light shine!
About Marnie Pehrson Kuhns
Marnie Pehrson Kuhns is a Certified SimplyAlign Practitioner™ who uses music and creativity to mentor you past barriers, fears and doubts to discover, create, align with, and deliver your soul’s song (the mission, message or purpose you are on this earth to live). Marnie is a best-selling author with 31 fiction and nonfiction titles. If you'd like Marnie and her husband Dave to work with you personally on Your Great Reinvention, get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.
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Wow,
thanks for sharing this Marnie – I can really relate! My particular
version is – if I share what I’m here to do and it fails, then what? and
no one wants or needs what I have to share so why bother. So…if I
just keep working on it instead of doing
it then I don’t have to deal with these issues. I’ve reworded one of
your affirmations to read -” I AM here to share my message and my tribe
will be attracted to it AND transformed by it; I AM a success!l”
Love that affirmation, Estelle ! Thanks for sharing!
Wow Marnie! What a beautiful articulation of every fear I’ve ever felt about moving forward with my dreams. And how beautifully you’ve transformed those fears into light. Thank you!
Thank you Ellen! And thank you for all your love and support along my journey. So blessed to have you in my life!
Lovely way to walk your talk, Marnie.
Hi Marnie, I don’t really have a fear of sharing my message – I’m just a bit stuck trying to share it! Blogs, Facebook, Tweeting, Pinning – with very limited success so far.
Beautiful, Marnie! Thank You! It’s perfectly what I needed to integrate for myself this morning. Love those affirmations! So much power in the words!
I didn’t think I was afraid to share my message, but when I read your article, Marnie,especially your list of truth statements, I realized that there are a few I need to install or reinstall. Thank you for making the not so obvious obvious.
Thank you Neill! 🙂 Glad to offer you a little help after all you’ve done for me!
Well said, now I need to get busy taking action!
Thanks for sharing Marnie, I still remember 2 years ago when I went to your class in Georgia….I have come a long way since then,…but even then I KNEW I would succeed….
Way to go, Dean! 🙂
I think you’ve been in my head! These are all the things I’ve been thinking – especially “What if I get it out there and that’s all there is?” I find myself saving my “good stuff” for my Big Talk, my Big Product, or whatever’s ‘out there’ in the future because I fear I won’t have more “good stuff” when that time comes. It all stems from scarcity thinking – you hit the nail on the head! Thank you for the mind-shift. I’ll be referring to your affirmations daily!
Glad it was helpful Holly. I’d never felt this way about sharing things until I honed in on my true message. Then all the scarcity garbage cropped up. Funny how the opposition seems to intensify when you decide to pursue the thing you’re here to do.
Beautiful, as always, Marnie. 🙂
I am so impressed with how you were able to break it down and articulate it. Awesome post!
Although I move through my fear daily and put my message out, on a really deep level I’m not affirming that I can truly be myself, speak my truth, and that the universe will support that–in all ways. So I really appreciated this post. Your teachings echo mine so closely…and yet you speak them much louder. You are a great role model for me. Thank you.
Thank you, Nina! We need to connect by phone sometime. Sounds like we’re on similar paths. 🙂
I would love that, Marnie! Yes, we are, but I’m a more than a tad bit behind you…
Marnie, what powerful energy and light you are shining to light the way for those of us who are learning from you. You have beautifully articulated things that all of us have undoubtedly experienced at one time or another. I know I have played small for far too long, yet I will will claim it all as stepping stones and fuel gathering for what lies ahead. Thank you for these tools.
Thank you for these powerful affirmations, Marnie. I took the time to copy them down into my creation journal so I can read them at the start of the day. I already feel so empowered by your suggestion. I’m ALL in! Thanks!
Good think.